Running a little Facebook test on my personal page today. But my page will still be open to locals (those on my friends list as opposed to open to the “public”). When you see this…go ahead and give my fan page some love. It takes 2 seconds to say hello (and 2 seconds x’s however many people post a comment, for me…uh oh…to reply) and I’ll post my thoughts slash “results” of said test at the end of the week: facebook.com/joaniplenty
So, here’s my message to YOU: Oh, no…wait…damn it! My life is a series of “Whatever Pops Into My Head First Moments” and that’s NOT a good thing this early in the morning. I’ll surely soil my social media cred by talking about random things like, “There’s a rule about touching someone during an involuntary movement (like stretching or yawning) that, if not obeyed, may get you voluntarily slapped”. So, I’ll just say that I love my life, my family, my pets, my home, Thanksgiving, honey suckle, bacon, 80s music, thunder storms, Wonder Woman, and Vampires (badass ones…not the ones that make me feel as if I’m watching the blood sucking version of ‘Saved By The Bell’). I love my friends, the new and the “few-true”, that I have and I appreciate you for your simple support of not only saying hello to me on my Facebook page but taking a few valuable minutes out of your day for someone else; me, in order to read this. I appreciate you for not being afraid of who you are. And if you are afraid, I commend you for being wise and strong enough to take the steps that you need to take in order to work on that.
Today…I have a simple tip that will save a lot of feelings of resentment and judgement. Today…Think. That’s it. I told you that it was simple, though, just because something is simple doesn’t mean that we’ll do it. But, just as you should think before you drink, think before you react, think before making a decision, and think before buying that bling’d out cell phone case from China that cost $25 when my 8 yr. old could have made it for you for $7; you should always stop and think before discussing your views. I’m not saying don’t discuss them; being open and honest is communication 101. But, please, be careful how you say it. Anything and everything; just stop to think first…pause and then speak. Because you never know; you could be insulting, offending or just making the person that you’re speaking with feel badly without even knowing it.
I’ve watched 2 people in the past few months say something to me as a general statement (well one was in a Facebook status to everyone who was able to view her page but the type of person she was describing was me and she doesn’t realize. The other was said directly to me not knowing that they were referring to me as well when they made these general statements).
People have skeletons in their closet, fears in their pockets, and pain in their hearts; so think before saying that you “dislike people who” or “People who do that are…” because you never know (trust me) who you are hurting with your statement. Whether it be the person you’re speaking with or their friend, mother, father, etc. When I was in the 3rd grade, a friend whom I still love dearly to this day, and I got into an argument. I pushed her backwards hard enough to cause her to flip over my twin bed that was behind her and land on the other side on her head. As I did this I blurted, “I hate people who do that!” Said friend replied, “Then you hate me, because I do that.” I stood still realizing how profound that statement was (way before I even knew what profound meant) and how mean I had just been to my BFF. But, more importantly, her words changed my life. Since that day I’ve stopped myself from repeating that phrase. I stop to think once I get to: “I hate…”. I then change the word “hate” to dislike and continue my sentence with, “…WHEN people do that.” instead of “people WHO do that.” So simple but just a quick change of a few words can totally change the meaning of a sentence and save a person’s feelings.
With that said…and because I don’t know HOW I got on that subject (this was supposed to be a “hello” post asking everyone to please take a moment to start my (and someone else’s) day off with a smile. I guess this thought just pushed its way through my snow-globe of a mind first)!
HAVE A VERY, VERY AWESOME DAY! I know that you can because YOU’RE the only person that can make your day awesome (how’s that for power?) and make the little detour changes throughout the day that cause you to take unexpected turns; make sure they’re for the better! Remember…there ARE no coincidences! You bring whatever you focus/concentrate on, whatever you constantly talk about, etc., into your life–whether good or bad–because when we consistently think about these things, we act and react accordingly.
So make sure that it’s positive, something that you love, and motivates you to feel better. When we feel better, we do better. What’ever makes YOU happy is what will add value to your life!!
Til the lip sticks and the chocolate chips,
J- xoxo
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